Our emotions can at times feel like a runaway train, even for people who have not been involved in an abusive relationship it can be difficult to manage the stress, anxiety, fears and pressures of daily life.
For the one in three women who have been affected by domestic violence painful emotions become an embedded feature, something to work around, push down and flatten out behind the mask of the coping, functioning, holding it all together woman who is doing the most amazing job at seeming to be getting over it to the outside world.
In the short term this may seem like a good plan just to get you through what’s happening here and now, but in the long term, suppression of intense feelings like hurt, anger, fear, guilt, hate, betrayal, worthlessness and the many other toxic emotions you may be holding on to are hurting you even more because you are changing your body chemistry. Over prolonged periods of time these chemical changes can lead to the development of illness or disease, as well as issues with mental health.
Developing beliefs about yourself from how you have been treated in the past is another downward spiral you must try to pull yourself out of to avoid even more toxic feelings washing over you like the daily tide creeping in.
Releasing these sometimes extraordinarily deep core emotions brings you back to who you really are, the woman who has been locked away behind her façade of “the getting on with it” act. The you who laughs easily, is able to unwind and relax, is creative, open, adventurous, trusting, grounded, intuitive and warm.
- The release of fear allows clarity
- The release of anger allows love
- The release of guilt allows acceptance
- The release of hurt allows calm
- The release of hate allows peace
- The release of betrayal allows gratitude
Being realistic about how to allow the healing process for yourself while at the same time supporting children is an act of balance that can be most challenging. Remember this; you have to be there for you before you can be there for anyone else. Your cup must be full for your loved ones to be able to take a drink. You are the most important one in your world.
Heal the past, embrace the future, enjoy the now.
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